Woah! I’ve been out of blogging for way too long. Truth is, I didn’t feel the need to write anything in the last six months. But now, I’m up to blogging again.
I’ll keep this one short. Quite a bit has happened in the past months. For one, my partner and I married on May 21st. Plus, I gave birth to my third child on June 20th. As for the littles, they’re getting bigger.
Charles is a couple of months away from being 4, Amélie just turned 2 a few weeks ago and Elliot is already nearly 3 months old!
So here’s the thing. I’m thinking of changing the direction of the blog a bit. I’m actually not sure yet, I’m playing around with a few ideas at the moment. So, you may notice some funky stuff going on with the blog in the coming days (or weeks, who knows how long it’ll take me to get this thing organized and looking the way I want it to look).
Ask my mom how tidy my room was when I was growing up and she’d probably either give you an eyeroll or break out in some form of maniacal laughter. (Actually, she’d probably tactfully say that it wasn’t one of my strengths but that I had plenty of other strengths) #gottaloveyourmama.
Ask my mom how tidy my house is now that I’m 31 with two and a half kids and she’d probably tactfully say that I’m a great mom and that it’s a good thing that I’m able to let go of the little things.
The truth is, I suck. Like seriously suck.
I know how to clean, I know how to tidy up, I know it’s important. I know the tricks. But darn, I just can’t get my act together.
Problem #1: I am a serious procrastinator.
Last year, when I was still on maternity leave, I figured out a method that actually worked for me. I started by decluttering (I used the 31 day decluttering guide I found on the Living Well Spending Less website). Then, I scoured the Web and found a whole bunch of example cleaning schedules. I mashed a few together, put them on paper and voilà, I had myself a cleaning schedule that worked for me.
Since I couldn’t just do everything in one day as I used to in my pre-kid life, I found that there were two general methods to go about keeping a house clean and tidy. The first was to go at it room by room (as in, each day, you would tackle a different room). The second was to go at it task by task. I opted for the latter as I found it more logical to take care of all the laundry (or window/mirror cleaning, or mopping/vacuuming, or dusting) on the same day.
And it worked! I was able to keep a clean and tidy house and not go totally nuts with the seemingly monumental-feeling task.
But then, life caught up to me. I had to go back to work.
Problem #2: I work full-time and often have to bring work home.
Suddenly, I ended up going back to work full-time, juggling two toddlers and becoming pregnant. (That’s when the procrastinator in me kicked in and determined that the kids, my sanity, some quality time with my partner and my sleep were more important than the tidiness of my house).
But boy oh boy. Besides the fact that my house regularly looks like it was hit by a tornado, I find myself with horrors like this when I dare look under the couch in the living room.
Of course, I also find myself picking up toddler boxers all the time because, you know, why play with toys or the food in the pantry when you can just empty out your brother’s boxers and adorn yourself with them (yet another of my daughter’s passions).
Problem #3: I have an 18 month old and a 3 year old.
Luckily, I do have help. My partner and brother and the ones responsible for doing the dishes. We also pretty much split supper duty and my partner’s pretty good at sweeping the floors.
Honestly, I am able to live amongst clutter. I am fine with seeing dust accumulate on my bookshelves. I can relax on my couch and see toys littering the floor. But I would like to become better at housekeeping. I want to find a balance between being a good teacher, being a good mom and being a good housekeeper without going nuts or burning myself out because…
Problem #4: I’m a perfectionist.
And so, dear readers, I turn to you.
Do you have any suggestions? What does your cleaning routine look like? How do you juggle your different responsibilities?
I haven’t been very good at this blogging thing lately so I thought I’d ease back in with a Ten Thought Tuesday.
I DO have a good reason for not writing much though. Between my job, my two littles and the end of my first trimester (yup, we’re gonna have another little one!) I’ve been completely tired.
Plus, we just got hit with a “lovely” bout of gastroenteritis. Oh yeah… So today I’m working on disinfecting the house with my friends bleach and water.
The good news is that Christmas is just around the corner. Little Dude is pretty excited (and was wise enough to ask for something different to everyone who asked him what he wanted).
No snow so far though😦. Plus on Chirstmas Eve we’re set to hit temps of 15 Celcius. Thank you El Nino…
I’m really looking forward to seeing the new Star Wars. I’ve heard that it is wonderful. Anyone wanna babysit my littles?
I’m also looking forward to some alone time with my partner (and soon-to-be hubby – we’re getting married in May!). We’re off to a spa for three days after Christmas.
Amélie finally got her surgery to remove the dermoid cyst that she had over her right eye about a month ago. Everything went very smoothly and the staff at the Montreal Children’s Hospital was fabulous.
Oh, and since we’re expecting another baby, we also decided to upgrade one of our vehicles. Despite saying that I’d never have one, I am now the (pretty proud) owner of a minivan. Never say never folks.
My partner and I just discovered a new series on Netflix. We are thoroughly enjoying Psych which gets us laughing every time.
When I was a kid, by the start of December, I would usually be flipping through the Christmas special version of the Sears catalog. I remember flipping through page after page getting excited by a whole bunch of cool-looking toys and gadgets. I could spend quite a lot of time doing this.
A couple of weeks ago, we received a small booklet from a nearby toy and game shop with a whole bunch of really interesting…well…toys and games. I was sure that Charles would get excited by it, but he flipped through it once and then moved on to other things.
Today, he looked at a set of flyers that I just couldn’t pry out of his hands to get him to bed. He kept exclaiming at each page and pointing more than a few items. He seriously spent a good half-hour pouring through the content, never tiring of turning the same pages over and over again.
Anyone want to gander a guess at what he was getting all excited about?
I’ve been pretty absent lately and it’s not because nothing is happening. Perhaps, in fact, it is because too namy things have been happening.
I am absolutely jammed at work. My days are so busy that they fly by (which is a good thing!). The best part is that my students are progressing in English! Yes!!! You see I teach a group of 13-15 year old students who have learning difficulties. Specifically, most of my students are at about the level of 4th graders. They have trouble with their mother tongue (French) so English is waaaaay far on their priority list. BUT, so far, things are going smoothly and not only are they progressing beyond what I had though, but they are actually enjoying themselves.
Then, there’s the home front. Amélie is now confidently walking (and climbing, and hiding inside cupboards and trying to do everything her big brother does). She is seriously all over the place. And she talks! This surprised me because (even if I know I shouldn’t be comparing my children), Charles was only saying “water” and “mom” by 18 months whereas she has quite a few words in her vocabulary (“eat” being the most prominent one…). She also recently started to cut her canines…all four of them…at the same time…at 13 (well, 14 now) months. Sheesh! She’s such a sassy little miss though and lights up any room she’s in. Oh and she has rendered my plug protectors obsolete as she has figured out how to take them out of the plugs.
Charles is doing really well too. He is now able to dress himself (when he wants to…). It’s always very apparent when he does so because his shirt, boxers and pants (and usually shoes/boots) are facing the wrong way, but boy oh boy is he proud when he surprises his father or I by getting out of his room all dressed. He is also talking non stop and loves to sing. “Row, row, row your boat” anyone? He still has his tantrum up and downs, but they seem to be getting (if not less intense) further apart and shorter in duration. Perhaps it’s just a placebo effect to my knowledge that he is going to be three (!) soon though. We’ve been keeping up his swimming lessons and have really seen an improvement in the last few weeks. He’s now able to float on his back unassisted and he’s able to put his whole head under water (which is wonderful because we used to get huge meltdowns when we got his face wet even a little).
By the way, for those of you who use the Allerject epinephrine injector in Canada, I received an e-mail yesterday stating that the company was issuing a voluntary recall of their devices because:
“The products have been found to potentially have inaccurate dosage delivery,” (source)
We’re not using an epinephrine injector anymore (thank goodness that Charles doesn’t need one anymore), but for those of you who are using Allerject, it might be worthwhile to look into with your pharmacist.
My partner brought both kids with him this morning for grocery shopping. This means that I got almost an hour and a half alone in the house to get some cleaning/washing done. I was amazed at all that I was able to accomplish and realized that there was a very simple way to represent how children affect the amount of time it take to clean a house.
What do you think? Does this sound about right to you? Happy Saturday!
I was filling the tub for Amélie’s bath and Charles was bent over trying as hard as he could to touch the rising water with his hand. When he finally succeeded, he took his index finger out of the water, showed me that it was wet and announced proudly: