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Rediscovering the Sexy Woman Inside

I was looking through some past posts on my friend Valerie’s blog over at Atlanta Mom of Three.  One post really caught my eye and I couldn’t help but chuckle as I was reading it.  In Becoming the Sexy Housewife, she talks about how women tend to fall into a similar pattern once they have given birth.

Citing Dr. Laura from The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands (chuckle #1), she goes to describe how new mothers tend to be stricken with “frump” syndrome.  So, how do you recognize a woman who has this syndrome?  Well, she generally gets ready for bed by sporting some flannel pajama pants or sweat pants, (fuzzy) socks, and an oversized tee.  Guilty, guilty and guilty (chuckle #2).  To find out what the remedy to frump syndrome is (as well as what the other symptoms are), I strongly suggest you go and take a look at her post!

Besides giving me a few chuckles, the post also got me thinking.  Why do many of us end up doing this (admit it, you’re guilty too!)?  Is it out of exhaustion, because it seems simpler, because immediately after giving birth we feel the need to just slip into something comfy and never really go back to our old ways?  Or is it because of something else?  I mean, it’s no secret that women tend to be very critical of their bodies and even moreso once they have given birth!  So is this a result of a woman’s discomfort with her own body?

Of course, this got me thinking about how I feel with regards to my own body.  I tuned in to my thoughts and was stunned at the result.  I realized that I am at peace with my body!  This realization flabbergasted me.  I mean, I’ve had issues with the way I look for a loooooooong time.  These issues stemmed from the interaction of a multitude of sources, but they were with me all the time.  One of the many manifestations was my complete and utter refusal to be photographed.

Nowadays, I feel good.  I don’t care that my body has changed, I welcome the changes because they are all (stretch marks included) a testament to the wonderful life that I brought into this world.  Having my first child has changed me.  I realize that there are more important things in life than worrying about what I think I look like and how others might judge me.  I am what I am, I am who I am and I am happy with that.

So, in the spirit of embracing who I am, here are my first three steps:

Step 1: Blog about it – get it out there! (Check)

Step 2: Post a picture of myself (and my son, of course ;)) (Check)

Here I am at my parents' house, not hiding from my grandmom's camera for once (bonjour grand-mère!).
Here I am at my parents’ house, not hiding from my grandmom’s camera for once (bonjour grand-mère!).

Step 3 (You may to wait before clicking this link – it’s not inappropriate, but may raise some questions if others are looking at your screen when you first open it.  Curious yet?): Get a year-long subscription to this. 😀 (Check!)

Are you a victim of “frump syndrome”? 

How are you dealing/have you dealt with your post-partum body?


Thirty-something year old discovering the joys and bumps of motherhood.

15 thoughts on “Rediscovering the Sexy Woman Inside

  1. It’s so great to hear you are feeling better than ever about your body!! I’m glad you enjoyed my post, and it’s so nice of you to share it with your readers – thank you. 🙂
    It’s funny that you bring up this post because I am actually writing a follow-up post to it, which I plan to publish later this week! Ha, good timing, Sophie!
    Btw, I’m not sure if it’s just my computer or not, but I can’t see your pic; it just shows a little ‘x’. 😦 Are you able to see it?

  2. Yep, I’ve definitely embraced the frump over the last 6-7 years. I started to get out of it between my second and third child (they are 6 years apart), but after having my third baby 9 months ago, I’ve resorted back to sweatpants and putting my hair up in a bun. Unless we’re going to church. I’m sure that, one day, maybe, I’ll get back to being a woman again. LOL. 🙂 Love the picture, by the way!

  3. I am a victim of sorts (no sweat pants and fuzzy socks, but definitely a jeans, tshirt and flip flops kind of gal. I am from Florida where this attire totally works but prior to kids I was never in flat shoes and always matched and looked cute. I feel like I have really aged over the last 7 years (3 kids in 5 years will do that, I guess) but I also have realized that I am always behind the camera and therefore there are very few pictures of me. This post may have been just what I needed to get over myself and deal with the new me, even if it’s a new definition of sexy! haha! 🙂

    1. I’ve always been a pyjama pant girl myself (would change into them as soon as I got home from work) but then again, I’m pretty sure I learned that from my mom haha! Glad I could inspire you 😉

  4. Definitely frump here! But to be honest, I always dressed like this at home when not expecting company. Both my hubby & I will come home and immediately go change to “get comfy” into our sweat/yoga pants and an old t-shirt. I don’t think I’ll ever give it up, at least not when I’m home with no plans (and since my hubby does the same thing, he sure doesn’t mind!).
    I did however try to up my frump quality by buying some graphic t-shirts recently (because anything without a print will show all drool/spit up/mommy whoops too easily). So now I’m fancy frump. 😉

  5. Aww I was touched to read your post and that you are embracing the beautiful woman that you are. Although I’ve never had children I struggled to love my body for many years especially with the health issues I had for six years. I am learning now to embrace what I have. It’s always a process. Lisa ❤

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