Mama Miller has put into words what has been bugging me ever since I became a mom. I’ve always hated being asked if my son was a good baby, or if he was sleeping through the night. I know that they questions are asked with good intentions, but they can (will?) indeed make a parent question themselves even more.
It happens so often. In grocery stores and malls and parks everywhere. People asking the question that brings prickly stress and annoyance to my soul.
“Is he/she a good baby?”
What does that even mean?!
Please stop asking new moms this question. Just don’t.
Every baby is a good baby.
A baby who sleeps through the night from 4 weeks does not possess more ‘goodness’ than a baby with colic who barely sleeps for the first year.
They are babies. Innocent. Perfect. Beautiful.
There is no such thing as a bad baby.
Some babies are, however, easier than others. It doesn’t make them good.
Some are clingy or have high needs. Being difficult doesn’t make them bad.
Please, I beg you, don’t ask it. It is inappropriate and can make new moms feel awkward. A mom with a high needs baby already has seeds of insecurity about…
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