Charles is a typical 4 year old. He likes to play pretend, he enjoys reading books, he likes crafts and has his own particular sense of style. Like most boys his age, he loves to play with LEGO, toy cars and enjoys dressing up in his policeman or firefighter costume. He adores to play with his foam lightsaber (he packs one heck of a hit!) and likes to throw imaginary fireballs at his imaginary attackers.
On the other hand, Charles also loves to play with dolls. He regularly asks me to paint his nails. His current favourite colour is pink. He likes to wear pink and purple beaded necklaces and bracelets and loves it when I do his hair. He plays with dolls and princess stickers. Last week, he was disappointed when I told him that he couldn’t wear his sister’s socks because they were too small for him. He wanted pink and purple socks. I brought him to a clothing store for him to be able to pick some out, he was elated and so very proud to put them on.
From the getgo, I’ve wanted my children to be raised in an environment unhindered by gendered stereotypes. I was lucky enough to find a daycare provider who has the same philosophy.
Last Monday, he decided that his sister and he should dress similarly. He loaned her one of his hoodies, then asked me to put his hair up in pigtails and convinced his sister to let him wear one of her headbands and bracelets. They were so cute!
I love the fact that Charles is still young enough to not even be aware that any stereotypes exist. In his mind, boys can love pink and nail polish and princesses and girls can totally love cars and monsters and Batman. And that’s the way it should be, right? I know that eventually someone will come along and burst his bubble. I only hope that when that day comes, he’ll be able to defend his interests, no matter what they are at that moment.
We are now at the tail end of the 4th day since starting potty training with Charles and I have to say that I am absolutely amazed by his progress.
He is now able to control his bladder for longer periods of time. On day 2, he went 10 times (7 on the potty & 3 accidents). On day 3, he went 6 times (3 on the potty & 3 accidents). On day 4, he went 4 times (3 on the potty and 1 accident).
It also seems that pooping on the potty isn’t a problem as he went on day 2 and every day since.
Furthermore, he surprised me today (day 4) by having his very first dry nap (we still use diapers for naps and nighttime sleep). Plus, as an added bonus, he was able to stay in the same pair of pants from the time he awoke from his nap to the time he was ready for bed. In the past days, he always ended up wetting his boxers because, when he had them on, he would only realize he needed to pee when he had already started.
Though Charles has come a long way in the past four days, he still has a few quirks to work out in the realm of bowel movements. He still needs to work on understanding when he’s about to have a bowel movement (and when he’s actually done).
Tomorrow, we’re also taking potty training to the next level. We’re going to be out of the house for Christmas (going to my parents’ house in the morning and my in-laws’ in the afternoon). This will be his first time out of the house without a diaper. This means that we’re going to be testing if he can handle a 15 minute car ride and if he’ll be able to use the potty in a new setting. I’m eager to see how things go (and plan on packing quite a bit of spare pants and boxers).
I have been searching for a doll for Arlo’s first birthday. I contemplated whether I would write this post, it’s a personal choice and at the end of the day, a doll is just a toy. Who cares if they are typically considered a “girls” toy. I decided to go ahead and post this because dolls are great toys and maybe there are parents out there who haven’t considered buying a doll for their sons – so, this post is for you (and any other parent who is interested in why I think dolls are great toys).
I came across this post earlier this week and just had to share it. It is written by Kerry one of my favourite bloggers. She is an Australian living in Thailand with her husband Sid and son Arlo. You can find her blog here. I really suggest you hop over and give it a read. I’ve never thought of buying my son a doll because, well, he’s a boy. I’d just never given it any thought. But after reading her post, I totally get how beneficial it could be to his development.
Have you ever thought of buying your boys a doll? How do you feel about it after reading Kerry’s post?