Posted in fitness, Parenting

Losing the Pre-Baby Weight

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One thing I’ve noticed since starting to blog some 4.5 years ago (and this is probably because I read a fair amount of blogs written by mothers) is that there seems to be this desire to lose the baby weight and try to regain as much as one’s pre-baby body as possible.  That’s great, really (and no, I am not being sarcastic)!

In my case, I’m super happy with my post-baby body.  Ah, but now I hear you thinking: “But why is she talking about losing weight, then?”

Let me explain.

I am well aware that three pregnancies and deliveries have wreaked havoc on my body.  Let’s talk, for instance about:

  • my droopy breasts (nope, cannot even think of going out of the house without a bra anymore – as for strapless bras…useless!);
  • the road map of stretch marks on my belly;
  • my plumbing problems (oh hello unexpected flow of urine accompanying laughter!);
  • the scar(s?) along my perineum.

Need I say more?

Anyways, like I said, I’m totally cool with those.  I’m happy with all of the changes that have occurred in my body in the last 5 years.  They are the reason I have three beautiful children.  I would go through it again.  Heck, I want to go through it again!  But I digress.

The simple fact is that I don’t want to go back to my pre-baby body because, for me, that would mean regressing.  To be honest, even though my pregnancies took a toll on my body, it’s is my years of sedentarism before pregnancy that have caused the most damage.

For years, I convinced myself:

  • that I didn’t need physical activity to lead a balanced life;
  • that I just didn’t have time to work out;
  • that I was more of a bookworm and gamer;
  • that it was absolutely fine to spend so many hours sitting each day, every day.

If I could go back in time and talk some sense into myself, I would.  Of course, if I could do that, I probably wouldn’t listen to myself.  I’m, hum – how can I describe it…pridefully independent?  I don’t like receiving unsolicited advice.  I don’t like asking for advice.  I suppose I take it as a challenge to my self-reliance (“what, you think I can’t figure that out on my own?!”).  I like to be in control.

The good news is that I’ve taken control now.  I’m already fitter than I was five years ago.  And though it’s tough sometimes, I’m determined to get my body in decent shape.  In the past, after an injury (as has happened to me recently because of running), I would have just stopped.  Now, I found an alternate activity while I wait to get back on my feet.  In the past, I never would have even considered working out in the evening.  Now, I’ll take the time I have to exercise, even if it is in the evenings.

It’s no secret that to make any change three things are needed: a catalyst, a plan and a great deal of perseverance (at least, in the beginning).  I’ve always been super organized, so making a plan isn’t super difficult for me.  I’m also very stubborn, so perseverance works pretty well for me.  What I was lacking, was a catalyst.

As it turns out, my kids are that kick-in-the butt I needed.  I realized one day that I want to be able to run alongside them with ease as they learned to ride a bike.  I want to be able to play and run around with them without becoming out of breath within 30 seconds.  I want them to know that if you put your mind to something, you can achieve it.  Most of all, I want to do everything in my power to be here, in this world, with them for as many years as possible.  That requires a healthy body.

I’m still a gamer.  I still read.  I find time to crochet and play the flute.  But it’s not all I do now.  Now, I don’t only try to eat a balanced diet (which is something I’ve been pretty good with overall), but I am also working to have a healthy body.

Have you made any major changes to you life recently?  What has been your catalyst?

Posted in Ten Thought Tuesday

Ten Thought Tuesday: October 28th 2014

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  1. I’ve been having some trouble finding the time to blog lately mostly because baby girl has been napping very poorly during the day.
  2. This is why I’ve decided that it was finally the time to break out the EASY routine and work on teaching independent sleep.
  3. Of course, we’ve got the eat (E) and activity (A) parts down pat  Now, I just have to work on the sleep (S).
  4. After a few days of frustratingly little day sleep, my daughter is finally taking a nap in her room (she’s been sleeping for 90 minutes – woot!).
  5. We’ve got a busy week.  Besides it being Halloween on Friday (can’t wait to share a photo of the kiddos in their costumes!), Amélie has her two month shots tomorrow, on Thursday I’m starting band again (haven’t touched my flute in almost 2 years!) and on Friday, baby girl is going for her 2 month well check up).
  6. After my postpartum appointment with my obgyn, I have decided to explore the world of smoothies.  She kindly scolded me when I admitted to not taking any postpartum vitamins, but I can’t stomach the things (good thing she didn’t know I wasn’t taking any when I was pregnant).  I figure that I can get all of the vitamins I need out of real food.
  7. Right now, I’m working on figuring out which vitamins I should focus on given that I’m breastfeeding and finding which foods pack the vitamins I need (also experimenting with flavour combinations 😉 ).
  8. The one thing that’s annoying me is that I’m using a food processor to make them.  Besides the fact that I have to remove the blade before removing the container and that the opening to the container has such a large diameter (and no spout) that it’s nearly impossible to pour the smoothie in my glass without losing half of it on the counter, it’s also a pain to clean all the parts and it doesn’t take care of ice and frozen fruits as well as I would like.  I’m thinking of investing in a good ol’ blender.  Any suggestions?
  9. Now that the content of Netflix Canada is better, we’ve decided to go ahead and subscribe to it.  I have been having a lot of fun going through the Star Trek: The Next Generation episodes.  So many memories for the geek in me!
  10. I can’t believe how quickly time flies.  My little sister turned 23 last week, my daughter is going to be 2 months tomorrow, my son 2 years old next month, I’m going on 30 and baby brother is going on 20!  What, seriously?  I remember holding him in my arms when he was fresh out of the oven!
Posted in Blogging

Write For Me Wednesday: Post-Partum – What They Never Told Me

I’m super excited to be sharing a guest post from Sarah from Journey2dfuture.  Sarah blog focuses on her adventures as a mommy to her wonderful son Vinnie,  being a wife and the challenges of juggling all of this while living in a foreign country.  If you haven’t checked out her blog yet, I definitely suggest you go and take a peek.

Post-Partum – What They Never Told Me

I’d like to share with you all the thing’s people forgot to mention once you’ve had a baby.

I’m sure many of you can relate if you are a mother.

  • Firstly, immediately after the birth, that strange empty feeling you have in your tummy.  Your organs are still pushed way up into your ribcage and it all just feels a little weird.
  • That amount of swelling on and round your whoha! Really no-one warned me it would unrecognizable.
  • The sheer amount of blood. It just kept coming…I remember just sitting on the toilet waiting for the blood to stop pouring so I could semi wipe and pull my pants back up.
  • The stitches: This is your doctor’s way of giving your whoha a facelift. A facelift hurts and so does this.
  • Constipation and piles…These two things go hand in hand in my case. All the pushing from the birth gave me piles which made pooping 10 times worse. Which made my scared, which then made me constipated. See the vicious circle?
  • Milk: Got milk Mama? Yes thank you way too much, to the point I thought my breasts may explode. This is called engorgement. If you fail to do anything about this issue you’ll end up with what is known as a blocked milk duct. Now listen carefully, if you fail to do the dangle feed and look like a dog nursing her puppies and massage the crap out of your already inflamed breast, you’ll end up with something called mastitis. This is serious.  Deal with it.
  • Your pelvis: If you thought walking while 9 months pregnant with a bowling ball between your legs was hard then just imagine this: As you give birth, your pelvis opens up even more than it already has to accommodate the bowling ball’s passing.  This separation of the pelvis hurts.  It hurts for a long time after.  Just because you gave birth overnight doesn’t mean you’ll have your body and bones back overnight.  18 months on since I gave birth and I still have pain in the pelvis and hip joints.  I wish someone had warned me.  I wish there was something I could do about the pain.
  • Sex: Planning to have sex after you give birth? All I can say is good luck. I waited 9 weeks. Yes Nine whole weeks before even attempting.  With my stitches, prolonged bleeding and pelvis pain it hurt.  Even if it didn’t hurt I still said it did.  I have been scared for life after what came out my vagina.  The thought of possible getting pregnant again and having to give birth, I’d rather cut out the sex and know for sure I won’t have to go through this again any time soon.
  • So now that you are possibly three month post post-partum, the fun doesn’t stop there.  It won’t be until around this time that your hair will start to fall out.  It’s the one last surprise to remind you not to get pregnant too soon.  After all you need time to grow yours back before it falls out again after the next baby right?

So this my friend sums up all of the things I wish I had been warned about.

Thanks Sarah for contributing with this funny yet memory-filled post!

If other awesome bloggers like Sarah would like to guest post on mommytrainingwheels, just shoot me a message through my contact page!