One thing I’ve noticed since starting to blog some 4.5 years ago (and this is probably because I read a fair amount of blogs written by mothers) is that there seems to be this desire to lose the baby weight and try to regain as much as one’s pre-baby body as possible. That’s great, really (and no, I am not being sarcastic)!
In my case, I’m super happy with my post-baby body. Ah, but now I hear you thinking: “But why is she talking about losing weight, then?”
Let me explain.
I am well aware that three pregnancies and deliveries have wreaked havoc on my body. Let’s talk, for instance about:
- my droopy breasts (nope, cannot even think of going out of the house without a bra anymore – as for strapless bras…useless!);
- the road map of stretch marks on my belly;
- my plumbing problems (oh hello unexpected flow of urine accompanying laughter!);
- the scar(s?) along my perineum.
Need I say more?
Anyways, like I said, I’m totally cool with those. I’m happy with all of the changes that have occurred in my body in the last 5 years. They are the reason I have three beautiful children. I would go through it again. Heck, I want to go through it again! But I digress.
The simple fact is that I don’t want to go back to my pre-baby body because, for me, that would mean regressing. To be honest, even though my pregnancies took a toll on my body, it’s is my years of sedentarism before pregnancy that have caused the most damage.
For years, I convinced myself:
- that I didn’t need physical activity to lead a balanced life;
- that I just didn’t have time to work out;
- that I was more of a bookworm and gamer;
- that it was absolutely fine to spend so many hours sitting each day, every day.
If I could go back in time and talk some sense into myself, I would. Of course, if I could do that, I probably wouldn’t listen to myself. I’m, hum – how can I describe it…pridefully independent? I don’t like receiving unsolicited advice. I don’t like asking for advice. I suppose I take it as a challenge to my self-reliance (“what, you think I can’t figure that out on my own?!”). I like to be in control.
The good news is that I’ve taken control now. I’m already fitter than I was five years ago. And though it’s tough sometimes, I’m determined to get my body in decent shape. In the past, after an injury (as has happened to me recently because of running), I would have just stopped. Now, I found an alternate activity while I wait to get back on my feet. In the past, I never would have even considered working out in the evening. Now, I’ll take the time I have to exercise, even if it is in the evenings.
It’s no secret that to make any change three things are needed: a catalyst, a plan and a great deal of perseverance (at least, in the beginning). I’ve always been super organized, so making a plan isn’t super difficult for me. I’m also very stubborn, so perseverance works pretty well for me. What I was lacking, was a catalyst.
As it turns out, my kids are that kick-in-the butt I needed. I realized one day that I want to be able to run alongside them with ease as they learned to ride a bike. I want to be able to play and run around with them without becoming out of breath within 30 seconds. I want them to know that if you put your mind to something, you can achieve it. Most of all, I want to do everything in my power to be here, in this world, with them for as many years as possible. That requires a healthy body.
I’m still a gamer. I still read. I find time to crochet and play the flute. But it’s not all I do now. Now, I don’t only try to eat a balanced diet (which is something I’ve been pretty good with overall), but I am also working to have a healthy body.
Have you made any major changes to you life recently? What has been your catalyst?